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Essential Read: Embracing No by Paula Quinsee

March 10, 2019 Melanie Hawken
Paula Quinsee

Paula Quinsee

Embracing No by Paula Quinsee is a self-help guide filled with insights and tools to empower you to say ‘no’ and be ok with it - often a key challenge for many women entrepreneurs, particularly in the early days of building their businesses. It helps to raise your level of self-awareness and empower you to make better choices in your life and in business. 


Paula Quinsee’s newly published self-help guide, Embracing No, is a quick and easy read for anyone, but don’t underestimate the depth of its content and the valuable nuggets it contains. We are conditioned to think that saying ‘no’ is a bad or negative thing, so we often try to justify our no with all sorts of reasons or excuses. It’s ok to say no. When we say ‘no’ to other people and other things, we are saying yes to ourselves instead of putting ourselves and our own needs last.

Some of the topics covered in this book include:

  • Relationships – saying no to unhealthy relationships

  • Self – saying no to self-sabotage and self-destruction

  • Families – say no to unhealthy family dynamics

  • Friendships – say no to negative or toxic influences

  • Workplace – say no to a negative practices in the workplace

  • Parenting and children – say no to inhibitive parenting styles

  • Saying No – without having to justify why.

Author quotes

Embracing No, like Embracing Conflict, is a self-help guide aimed at helping individuals to be say ‘no’ and be ok with it.

When we say ‘no’ to other people and other things, we are saying yes to ourselves instead of putting ourselves and our own needs last.

About the author

Paula Quinsee works with individuals and companies by providing insights, tools and skills to immediately and positively enhance the quality of their personal and organizational relationships. Her background includes spending over 16years in the corporate world working in organizations such as Standard Bank, Nedbank and KFC. It was here that she learned many lessons on relationships in the workplace, people and team dynamics and leadership traits. She believes that whether we like it or not we cannot separate work from our personal lives, they are integrated and contribute to our overall health and well-being. Both Paula’s corporate and personal journey have assisted her to help individuals and organizations since 2009. As a result, she has also  authored a self-help guide Embracing Conflict which is filled with practical tools and insights for personal growth. On the personal front, sport and an active lifestyle play big roles in her life and she has competed in the Comrades Marathon, the Two Oceans Marathon, cycled from Sun City to Cape Town for charity, climbed Mount Kilimanjaro and walked the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu in Peru to mention a few. 

www.paulaquinsee.com 


Why LoA loves it….

For all those who experience difficulties in saying no to all kinds of challenges and situations in life and in business, this is a great read. It’s like having your own personal empowering life coach by your side. Paula Quinsee’s vast experience and specialist knowledge in coaching her clients through tough personal and business challenges means she is uniquely positioned to help those who need to find their ‘no’ in life. This is another great read from Paula. --- Melanie Hawken, founder and ceo of Lionesses of Africa

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